Look anew at the circumstances that distress you.
Look again at the perceptions that filter your world.
Take a fresh look at belief systems that direct your path.
We suggest this because it's possible to over look the truth as it becomes buried under oceans of doubt, fear, and judgment.
Dive deep within yourself while shining the spotlight of love on those unfathomable issues. You may think you are thinking "correctly" while your perceptions may be filtering out the things that could bring you more joy, prosperity, and fulfillment!
How does one dive deeply into the awareness? Choose to. Choose to be aware. The wonderful thing is that frustrations, aggravations, and sorrows often spring up to reveal where the disconnection exists. The very thing humans run from is the very thing that can bring them more awareness. Humans avoid pain and stress to their own detriment. Diving deeply into this discomfort yields new awarenesses and from that awareness - FREEDOM!
When an aggravation threatens to obstruct your progress, stop and take a look at it. That which is an aggravation is telling you that either you are no longer in alignment with the situation or that it's time to align into the situation. Aggravated at traffic? Align to the situation. People are confined to a limited space and are given directives to arrive at specific times. Each person in traffic has the same basic need - Freedom - which the circumstances forbid. One cannot drive at any old speed. One cannot drive off the roadway. One cannot crown another person out of the way by ramming.
Safety forbids these actions. Yet, humans, in their struggle for perceived dominance do these things! Whether you see these actions in others or you tend to do these things yourself, consider this. The circumstances are binding. Noticing the bindings allows you to journey without the need to struggle or be aggravated. When others struggle against their bindings, you can know that they feel bound up in many aspects of their life.
Freedom is a state of mind. A state of being. . . that exists beyond one's current circumstances.
We bring this freedom mind-set to you for your consideration. You can choose to feel aggravated while being in a binding situation or you can feel the freedom to consider the lillies of the field or jam out to your favorite tunes while you live within the bindings safety requires.
We hope you choose freedom. You will find us there.
We slept with the window open last night. It was nice to have fresh air. Until the wind picked up. Literally, the wind picked up dirt from the torn up landscape and delivered it to every horizontal surface in my home.
We used to be able to sleep with windows open even with the wind. Well, that was before the construction behind our house and before we cut out a big chunk of grass in front of the deck (still in construction). Here in the Tri-Cities, we live in an area with fine dust – silt from the Missoula Ice Age Floods. This fine grit travels quite nicely on a bit of a breeze. And then ever so evenly falls upon clean surfaces.
Well, mostly clean. I dust about once a week. I wipe of counters three or four times a day sometimes . . . I tend to spill whatever it is that I’m cooking. This morning my wet rag was covered in dirt.
Isn’t that how it is with ourselves and our spiritual life?
We leave that window open just once and we have damage control to manage.
If I allow myself an opportunity to feel sorry for myself, or beat myself up about something, I’m cleaning up remnants of that “shame-blame dust” for days afterward. Just like the dust all over everything, “shame-blame dust” gets everywhere in our conscious and subconscious being.
Like a dry cloth just spreads dust around, getting mad at ourselves for our diligence slipping. Being irritated at ourselves just adds another layer of “shame-blame dust” over what we are trying to clear.
So, how do we clear that stuff?
First, I like to look at it in amazement. Wow! Look at how much crap is here! It can be almost funny. I was just fine a couple of days ago and then I doubted myself or I criticized myself because I could have done it better. Now the whole place is dusty! Dust is everywhere. All aspects of my life are gritty and unpleasant with negative thinking, followed by more judgment and negativity! It’s crazy! By noticing it in this way – “Wow! Look at that!” I shift out of judgment mode. Shifting out of judgment mode is the beginning of the shift and clearing.
Next, I pray about it. I tell ya, I cannot do this clearing stuff alone. Prayer is the part that allows the “dust” to stick to the cleaning cloth and be washed away. Even if it’s just noticing I haven’t been taking care of myself for optimum physical health. . . it’s vital to shift out of shame-blame in order to take the next step and I often cannot move out of shame-blame without Divine Intervention!
There is no wrong way to pray. Just open to Divine Source and speak from your heart.
Once I’ve prayed about it, I keep praying. Throughout the next day or so, I specifically recognize each and every time judgment (shame-blame) comes up and ask to be uplifted out of that. Each time I pray it gets easier.
As prayer continues, I begin to take some different steps. Maybe boredom was the cause of the previous slippage. How can I do it differently? If I’m not eating appropriately, what could I add to my meals that would wake them up. What could shake up and wake up my taste buds while blessing my physical body with nutrients necessary for good health? What joyful action could I take to ease the boredom of same-old-same-old? How can I bring fun back into my moments?
Once I start to do the little things a little differently, I start feeling much better and clearer.
Finally, I apply gratitude. This can be really challenging while I’m in-process of clearing. I find gratitude illusive when I’m covered in “shame-blame dust.” Yet, finding gratitude reinforces the positive energy and totally sweeps the last remnants of grit out of my awareness. I may not be able to find gratitude with a current situation, so I look for other things to focus my gratitude upon. I can allow feelings – deep feelings- of gratitude to emerge when I look at a flower or think about a kindness someone has done for me. Once I access the gratitude, then I can access the flow of gratitude that can wash over my whole being. Everything in my life becomes awash with gratitude. Colors brighten, relationships flourish, ideas and creativity ignite, energy magnifies, insight expands.
There is just so long that we can ignore the “shame-blame dust” before it becomes intolerable. Don’t wait! Life is so much more pleasant without grit. It takes a bit of effort, yet this effort seems effortless in comparison to the effort it takes to ignore the “shame-blame dust.” The space you can create beyond the grit grants you an amazing amount of energy and peace.
You deserve a clean slate!
A change is coming. You are changing. You are becoming.
That which you think you are, may not indeed, be who you really are. Your perceptions are built upon other’s opinions and your own accomplishments . . . or your judgment of your perceived lack of accomplishment. The standards by which you judge yourself may be faulty.
Yes, accomplishing things is necessary for your Earthly journey. Yet, acts of kindness propels your soul into higher realms. No one may seem to notice your kindness. No one may comment on your kindness. You may believe that people only see your “mistakes”.
These perceptions are judgments. What others may deem as a mistake in fact may be just the valuable learning lesson your soul came here to accomplish! Once the lesson is learned and you move forward with joy and gratitude, the judgments of others fall away.
Wouldn’t it be more helpful to let those judgments fall away first? Moving forward would be so much easier!
Your whole life is a transformational journey.
If you knew it all or were perfect, there would be no need for you to incorporate into a physical form.
So, if you are in the physical form, you are on your sacred journey with lots to learn and even more to share. Our biggest suggestion to you is this . . . take time to be kind. Kindness honors your soul’s journey and honors another’s soul journey. In so doing, you short circuit judgment. This allows you access to ascended energy of Love and Light in a higher measure.
It takes courage to be kind. We know you are brave enough and strong enough. First, acknowledge the kindness Spirit brings to you every day in the little blessings of life. Then, be kind to yourself in honor of those gifts. Then, allow kindness to flow through you. The little acts of kindness transform your journey. Be transformed. Be Love and Light.
We walk with you in this.
I took a few minutes this morning to clear out my winter clothes and put them away. Gratefully! So glad the cold weather seems to be gone. I pulled out (unearthed) my summer things and, as always, found delight in forgotten garments. Pretty spring colors brought a smile to my heart. I’ll find a place to put them after the rest of the winter stuff gets stowed away. In the meantime, there are heaps of clothes here and there. As a Virgo, this is disconcerting to say the least. Yet, life goes on and my time dedicated to the garment shuffle was limited this morning.
I made coffee and homemade cookies and my brother stopped by. Nice! We sat outside in the lovely spring weather. We walked around the yard looking at all the irises in bloom. I noticed that there were a few mums that I had not broken off last year’s dead stalks. After my brother and his dog Simon, took their leave, I went out and started to break off the dead stuff.
I vigorously went to work braking and pulling dead stuff.
It didn’t take long before I realized I was pulling up the new sprouts with the old stuff. I had to slow down. I had to look before I yanked. I had to discern what was dead and what was alive. As I started getting rid of the dead stuff, the new growth and the new blooms just seemed to pop and look alive! They already were alive, but they were lost under the shroud of the dead stalks.
So, too, we have things die in our world. Old dreams. Old relationships. Old careers. Old perceptions.
So, too, it’s important to look before we discard the old. Is it totally dead? Is there new growth to nurture? Is it making everything else in our world look grim and dried up?
Instead of vigorously attacking what we are getting rid of perhaps a better approach would be rigorously. Using rigorous attention to the task at hand.
As I was breaking off the old mum stalks, weeds could be seen. I had to pull the new growth apart so I could get to the root of the weed and pull it out so it would not regrow. This rigorous attention allowed me to remove the week while leaving the flowers undisturbed.
Whether you are just cycling through seasonal changes or you are taking out aspects of your life that have died, take your time. Look at the good stuff first. What’s good and growing in your life right now. Identify and nurture those things. This will grant you energy and strength for the task ahead.
As you look at that which remains and must be removed, check to see if there lies any value left. Sometimes, in our moments of distress we tend to rip out the good stuff along with the unusable. We tear out the flower bed of our hearts and leave it bare – where weeds will soon take over.
Instead, apply that rigorous attention. Recognize the value that might remain and remove only that which is truly dead. Remove it gently. Remove it with honor. It served its purpose. It lasted as long as it could. It blessed in its own season.
Clearing our old heartache may seem a more difficult task. Yet, with honor, rigorous honesty, and gentleness, that which no longer serves can be pulled out of our awareness. Then the new, bright, joyous flowering moments of growth can flourish. It, too in its own season.
The past happened before now. The future is yet to happen. The "eternal now" is the experience of timelessness - the feeling you get when fully engaged in something and you "lost track of time" or "time seemed to stand still." These experiences allow you a moment's perception of eternity that is the essence of your soul/spirit.
What a delightful day it will be when you can fully experience this!
In the mean time, you are still anchored in time.
The key to moving through time is the constant process of letting go of what was and taking advantage of new opportunities as they arise.
Judgment may keep the past alive in the hear and now.
Fear may kill the future.
Walk in faith, Dear Ones. This grants you life and life abundantly
Each new day holds a new opportunity. We can choose how we respond to the day as it unfolds. Except for those pesky habituated patterns.
I grew up in a household that allowed angry outbursts as an appropriate response to anything challenging. A misplaced item was met with an angry outburst. A chore left undone was met with a negative response. So, that’s what I thought life aught to look like. Whatever happens needs to be addressed with anger.
Well, you can imagine how well that worked for me.
One day (many years ago) I found myself getting ready to go out for the day. It can be kind of zen to curl one’s hair. Mine was long at the time, so it took quite a bit of time. As I was standing there allowing the heat of the curling iron to do its work, I found myself contemplating my reactions and how unfruitful and unpleasant they were. I pondered if there was a better way to be/live.
At that exact moment someone came in (not Phil) and exclaimed their displeasure at something happening in the world . . . that same angry outburst I was familiar with though it was about something that had nothing to do with me.
In that moment I had the choice to react as I always had, or to find a new way to react. Well, I didn’t have any other way to react in my toolbox as yet, so I just continued to do my hair while I mentally searched for a response.
Interesting thing happened. The other person stopped yelling and just walked away. Aha! Doing my own thing was a response and it gave me what I wanted – peace within myself. I didn’t have to correct the other person or address their anger. I could just allow them to be where they were and not get sucked into it.
That was a profound moment for me!
As I finished getting ready, I wondered how I could apply this to other situations. Like situations where I was being dressed down for something I had done or not done. Well, doing my own thing was not a solution when directly verbally addressed because that gave the other person ammunition to accuse me of ignoring them or being passive-aggressive.
So, what could I do! I loved that sense of inner calm and peace! I wanted more of that!
I discovered that truth is an open door to neutrality. Not beating someone up with my truth, but rather just calmly expressing where I was at. In that way, truth is neutral. Neither hurting the other person, nor diminishing me.
When hit with, “You didn’t do that right!” I could respond gently with my truth. “Hmmm. I thought that was how it was done.”
“You didn’t do that right!” It is soooooo easy to respond to anger with anger. “Well, who are you to tell me how to do that?!” Yet, because anger begets anger, when anger is applied, more anger happens. Vicious cycle emerges leading to frustration, tears, or worse.
Once I made the commitment to find my truth and speak it gently, the real work began. Once I got triggered, I could NOT THINK!! My mind went blank! They only thing I could think was the habituated negative responses!
So, I began to pack a few neutral truth responses into my conscious brain when I was in a state of calmness. Then when the negative attack happened (as was the habituated pattern with this person) I could call upon my list of neutral statements to disarm myself and reclaim my brain out of the abyss of habit.
“Well, I’m not sure how to respond to that.” (truth!)
“I don’t know what to say, here.” (truth!)
“Hmm. I’m going to think about what you are saying here.” (truth!)
“I need to go to the bathroom. I’ll be back in a minute.” (This one works great!!!)
“I don’t think I see this the same way you do.” (truth!)
No accusations. No defensive/hostile comments. No judgments on the other person. Just neutral truth.
Did that heal that relationship? No. Sadly. Yet, it brought me into a clearer state of mind to a place where I could see my truth and begin to walk in it. I could disengage from the habituated anger cycle that was so familiar.
Do I ever get angry? Yes. Yet, I can speak my truth much more easily. (Sometimes it’s still hard! Especially if the other person is angry and I feel myself get triggered.) Now, I can feel my brain shutting down and I know the importance of getting space between me and the situation.
Truth is an open door to emotional freedom. Truth is the gateway to clarity. Truth is the passageway into honor and self-respect. Truth is the portal to awareness. Truth is the access point to dignity.
May truth lead you into peace.