Have you found yourself asking for your intuitive self to be removed or disconnected because it’s just too painful? Part of this pain comes from being around people who drain and exhaust your energy. That’s painful!
This world is full of very broken and troubled people who become energy drainers. There’s a lot of regular people out there who are just hurting.
We don’t mind giving energy to someone who is temporarily hurting. However, we are not talking about a matter of giving. This is a matter of energy stealing. Rather than an energy vampire who takes your energy by being unhappy, these are energy Zombies. . . . this type of person eats your energy to the point you cannot think, respond, or even move. And it can happen very quickly. One moment everything seems fine, then the next – you are drained.
Truth is, these people are so empty that they become a hollow shell that cannot feed on enough energy to get full. They always want more. They are intuitively drawn to caring hearts because those are the easiest to feed upon. We are less guarded - rightfully so, because living all guarded up is not what we came here to do. Actually, being all guarded up causes us to miss initial cues of their energy being amiss.
Unfortunately, they are really good at disguise. Like a chameleon, they disguise themselves and sweet people and just need a bit of a helping hand. Once you bite the hook, they reel YOU in. Once reeled in, they feed upon your kindness, good nature, and loving heart. You really don’t want to cut out your loving heart, you just want to be safe from this drain.
So, how to recognize and protect yourself in the future? Notice that their brand of helplessness or neediness has a sharp edge to it. It's not just a matter of doing a kindness for them. You can sense the difference if you look for it. You will feel a sense of needing to back up or feeling uncomfortable in a subtle way. You intuition will really help you avoid difficulty if you let it.
The moment you first notice an energy drain, while you can still think, look away - they eat (consume) your energy through your eyes. How do they do that? They have huge expectations of how you should be or how you should act or what you should do for them. When you don’t measure up to this unnatural expectation, they view you/see you with disdain and judgment. That judgment is felt by your caring heart. That judgment then allows them to absorb energy from you. It may feel like it’s coming out of your guts or your heart-space.
As soon as you notice an energy drain, back up so they cannot get within arm’s length as they are capable of sucking energy right out of your aura. If they are too close to you physically, they suck it right out of your heart space, your solar plexus or your whole energy field. Know, too, that their voice and their criticism/victim-speak sucks the energy right out of your heart, body, and energy field even over the phone!
Get away. Get some physical distance. If you have to be around this type of person very long, your awareness and intuition will be your saving grace! You will want to perceive this energy drain before it happens or just as it begins . . . not after you are already depleted.
If you cannot notice it right away, as soon as you recognize this form of energy thief, look away, back away, disengage - excuse yourself to the bathroom and then don't get back to them. They may get mad at you, but far rather they get upset than you get drained. They are only upset because you evaded the trap and now they have to entrap someone else to feed. Once they know they cannot feed on you, they don’t waste any energy in your direction. But use caution! If they think you’ve weakened, they will attempt to reattach!
What's really sad is that they don't even know what they are doing and they feel that everyone else is “so mean” to them and they cannot understand why. If you hear any one start to tell you how mean other people are to them, go on full alert! (Danger, Will Robinson! Use caution or you could become Lost In Space!)
You may think to yourself, well, I cannot be mean to anyone!
Keeping yourself save is not being mean! “Mean” is their judgment of clear energy boundaries – Their judgment of you being mean not the truth. Truth is . . . Letting them feed on YOU is mean, because then they don’t go to Source for their energy . . . by giving them YOUR energy, you are starving them of REAL, SUSTAINABLE energy! You are cheating them out of what really feeds them!
Stand your ground with a clear conscience.
What is also sad is not only do they feed on other's energy, they also download (dump) their dark energy into the one they are feeding upon - much like a mosquito. Receiving that poison will feel itchy and miserable long after the event has happened.
So, how to get clear?
Your awareness of the situation and getting away is your first response.
The second response is put them in pink light or pink bubble. This disrupts their energy barbs from getting to you. They cannot feed without hooking in first. If they've already hooked in, when you walk away, shudder (shake it off) and sweep yourself off with your hands - especially the heart-space. Once you are clear of their attempt to attach, you can release any dark energy they may have downloaded onto/into you. If you can put your hands on a tree or on a wall, this will ground out that dark energy.
The pink bubble connects them with God, who is truly the Source of all they truly need. You can add a prayer to connect the pink bubble to God and envision the pink bubble open at the top connected to Divine Source.
Lastly, here is a way-cool technique for reclaiming your energy and getting clear.
Notice your heart-space. Notice there is a door there. Don’t see it in your imagination? Create one. (See?! Your intuition and imagination are saving graces!) Open the door and notice a thread of light emanating out from your heart-space out away from you. Don’t see it? Imagine it. Once you see that thread of light, say, "All that I Am that I may have given away or had taken away, return to me now!"
You will feel the energy that is truly yours return to you down this thread. It might take a few minutes. Once you’ve received all you can receive for now, this thread of light will stop beaming out of you.
While that door is still open, you can release any downloaded energy. (The door should remain open. If not, re-open it for thus releasing step.) Then say, "All that is not mine be removed fully and completely." You will feel that dark yukky energy (betrayal, anger, frustration, confusion, fear, to name a few) being released or pouring out of you. For me, it’s like a big glob of gunk that spills out onto the ground where it is absorbed deep into the earth. (It feels like my heart-space vomits this dark goo. Sorry for the yukky visual.)
When that release has finished processing, that heart-door will close and vanish. You will feel a lot less drained and more like yourself. Probably more so than in a long time as we allow others to drain us more often than we realize.
There is more to this healing process, but this is the quick version and it works really well!!! I’ve been known to do this process every morning and every night.
Caring for someone doesn’t drain us. Acting out of love doesn’t drain us energetically. Yes, we might be physically tired, yet that unspeakable energy drain doesn’t happen when we act through a loving heart. Our intuition and our imagination work hand in hand to protect us and to help us clear. Now you can interact with your world on a higher level of vibration and feel safer doing so.
There is one final part to this series I hope to share with you next time . . .
The biggest reason people want to cut off their Intuition and Spiritual Awareness has to do with spiritual overload. We sense and feel everything around us. It feels like it’s just toooo much!
When I first awakened to my Intuitive self, I could hardly go in to a restaurant. I would pass the first table and feel everything each person at that table was feeling. I would feel their sadness, anger, joy, frustration, loneliness, grief, and worries to name a few. Then I would move past the second table while still feeling overwhelmed from the first table. God help me if we were seated in the back of a large restaurant!!
Once I even felt the wind blow through me on the way into the restaurant and felt a sharp wave of overwhelming feelings . . . nearly knocked me to my feet! I was so unsuspecting!
My husband, Phil, was understanding, but horrified and helpless as he watched me go from happy and joyful to heavy and overwhelmed. He strongly encouraged me to do something about that because it was breaking his heart.
So, over the years, I’ve found several solutions that really work. I’ll share some really powerful ones with you. I share them with you because living closed down is really not an option. All those walls and barriers we attempt to put up don’t really work. They just take whole lot of energy to sustain them. There are easier ways to be free of that energetic overwhelming experience while remaining intuitively and spiritually open.
Closing down or shutting down or removing the intuition is like removing your eyes. You need your eyes to see! You need your intuition to “see” your world energetically. Your intuition is your early warning system (you can sense something amiss before it appears) and your life support system (your life-force energy flows through the intuition).
Here is the first practice that I did when I was just newly awakened. It really helped tune me in and eased the trauma of being overwhelmed incredibly fast. Before you go into a restaurant or a place filled with people, ask Divine Source to “As a practice, please reveal to me a word or blessing for one person in this place.” Your guides/angels/Divine Source will then direct your attention to one person. All else will fade. All else will fade!!! You will not receive any other information!
You will be gifted a word a thought, an impression, or a kind blessing for that one person. You do not have any responsibility to give that word or blessing to the person! This is just your practice mode! Thank your guides/angels/Divine Source for this information and just be “at rest” where you are. Clutter starts to pour in? Immediately ask your guides/angels/Divine Source, “Please allow me to be at rest.” Then focus upon the menu or who you are with or if you are by yourself, bring a book. Do not allow yourself to be distracted from “at rest.”
You have choice and power over your intuition. It does not have power over you! Know this! Practice this! Take charge of this gift!
If you get into a car, you guide the car to where you are going . . . it is a mode of transportation only. It doesn’t take you where you don’t want to go.
Your intuition is a mode of awareness to get you where you really want to be – A Divinely connected blessing to this world. You are a better blessing when coming from a place of “at rest” than a place of overloaded. From that place of “at rest” you can receive more and
deeper information for one person. This is a huge practice that really helps you move beyond overload and into all the aspects of clear-seeing, clear-hearing, clear-communication, and clear-sensing.
Also, it’s coming to my attention that you may enter a restaurant, movie theatre or shopping center and “hear” whispering or conversations just out of ear-shot. You are hearing other people’s guides and angels as they are either communicating with one another or sending guidance to their person. This is really none of your business. However, this experience lets you know that you are tuning in to the frequency of guides and angels and can communicate with them . . . your guides and angels and other people’s guides and angels. How cool is that!?!
You can use the SAME practice of requesting a word or blessing to let the guides and angels know that you can hear them. Again, ask, “As a practice, please reveal to me a word or blessing for one person in this place.” They will either give you a word or blessing, or they may move out of ear-shot. Either way, you are not so overwhelmed with that energetic noise. Again, you are not responsible for giving the word or blessing to anyone! This is just practice so you can receive and then move into “at rest” mode. Like an engine on idle, it’s on, but not going anywhere. Your awareness is ready, willing, and able to get you where you want to go WHEN YOU DECIDE you want to take the journey.
Obviously, there are many other techniques that I could share with you, but this – by far – is the most valuable. This not only eases up the energetic/intuitive clutter that overwhelms, but it also prepares you for MORE! And if you are ready for MORE, I can help you with that, too. MORE to come on that!
Phil and I noticed the other day that we had somehow developed a tone of disdain with each other. I hadn’t been feeling well and he’d been really feeling the pressure of deadlines at work. Whatever the cause, we didn’t like it and we made a pact to refrain from disdain.
Distain is that nasty sharp tone of voice that cuts deeply. The words may be harmless in and of themselves. “What?” is an appropriate way to seek additional clarification. However, that same “What?” spoken with a silent “you worthless piece of scum” energy projected in the query harms both the one speaking and the one hearing.
It’s like a paper cut. Not very deep, yet it hurts like heck and it continues to hurt for days afterward. If experienced again, slices deeper and stings like crazy. People don’t die from a paper cut, but the sting reminds one that they are no longer ‘safe” with that person. When we speak with that tone of disdain, we sow the seeds of fear and mistrust. We are, in actuality, asking the other person to mistrust us!
Why do we speak in that tone of disdain? It’s a learned response to frustration. It’s meant as a simple nudge to push someone to please us. We want a certain thing a certain way, and we want it right now. Maybe stressors elsewhere make us feel impatient with the ones we love. Maybe we just get full of ourselves. Maybe we just are functioning barely within our limits. The outcome remains the same. Pain and mistrust ensues.
Energetically, here’s what happens. That tone of disdain cuts right through the energy field surrounding a person and slices directly into their heart-space. This slice is quick and sharp, so it doesn’t feel—well, terrible—just a slight “urk” feeling. Pulled up short. This opens the energy field and the heart-space. Positive energy leaks out while the disdain edges in. The disdain is like poison. Without realizing it, the receiver responds in distain as well. Both people leak positive energy while both people “fester” with this disdain poison all the while sending it back and forth.
We feel unsafe and teach/reinforce that unsafe feeling. The really sad thing is that we speak this way to ourselves!!!
So, how do we refrain from disdain? Notice it when it happens. Recognize it is not about you! Release the disdain, and heal yourself immediately with inner words of truth and kindness. (Like, I love, honor and respect myself. I appreciate all that I do in the time and way I do it.)
In time, if another person has spoken with disdain towards us, we can speak calmly to the other person. Perhaps we can let them know (lovingly as we can) that the way they said a thing kinda hurt. They may or may not get it. They may or may not be able to change. Their words of disdain are evidence of their own pain of frustration. Notice and let it go.
When we notice that we’ve spoken in a disdainful way, we apologize immediately! Even to ourselves! We restate what we intended to say in a clear, non-emotionally charged tone of voice. EVEN IF WE FEEL THEY (we) DESERVE our disdain, they don’t. No one deserves disdain. It’s that disdain poison talking. Stop listening to that voice.
We get to speak our truth clearly with a neutral voice. This heals us and offers healing to the one listening. Speak to the heart. The heart hears and feels what is being said and how it is spoken. Let’s let our words heal.
I wonder if we could start a campaign to refrain from disdain this year? Could we speak clear truth? I wonder what a difference this could make in our world? Let’s give that clear voice a try!
After Last Week’s message at The Divine Fellowship, I was asked to transcribe some of our notes for ease of use. So, here ya go!
As I was sending out an email to the church membership, I came to the part where I make a note of the upcoming message title. Nothing had come to me as yet, so I began to ponder all the things that would be good to talk about. I heard, “And then . . .” and continued pondering other topics. I heard, “And then . . .” again, and dismissed it again, because I had no idea what that would be about. I heard, “And then . . .” again and laughed out loud while typing that in as the message title. I realized I would be given the information as the week unfolded. There have been rare occasions that the message information was delivered as I walked from the back of the sanctuary to the podium. They’ve never let me down! (God, Angels, Spirit Guides – whatevers – lol)
So, as the week progressed I decided to get out my trusty link to Bible Gateway where you can look up verses quickly. I typed in “and then” and hundreds of passages popped up. I read a lot of those and discovered that whenever the Bible used the phrase “and then” it referred to a moment of change! Profound change.
So, I argued with God that this would be a better message for the first of the year. I was reminded by an astrology friend later in the day that the solstice was coming up and it was a great time for change. Sheesh. I guess God might have a better plan than me.
So as I considered the “and then,” along with the Solstice just days away, I realized that there was a wonderful opportunity to use this time and this method to really create chance in our lives for good!
So, the process is this. . . . State your current struggle as if someone else was having it in the past tense. She was overwhelmed. He was worn out. She was fearful. He was alone.
And then, add “and then” to the phrase. She was overwhelmed, and then . . . He was worn out, and then . . . She was fearful, and then . . . He was alone, and then . . .
And then, add a possible new insight or action. She was overwhelmed, and then she found her center. He was worn out, and then he reclaimed his power. She was fearful, and then she became aware of her strength.
Then say the “And Then” statement to yourself morning and evening until the Solstice when it changes to a personal truth statement. I was overwhelmed, and then I found my center. If you can repeat this to yourself for 21 days, true change happens! I hope you give it a try!
Here are a few “And Then” statements for you to choose from. Maybe more than one will apply to your current situation. Notice how you can instantly shift as soon as you say the “And Then” statement. There is Divine Power attached to this! You are not alone in your journey and this is a tool gifted directly from Source just this last week for you to use!
She was overwhelmed, and then she found her center.
He was worn out, and then he reclaimed his power.
She was fearful, and then she became aware of her strength.
He felt alone, and then he connected to Source (and went fishing)
She felt betrayed, and then she found her truth.
He felt full of self-doubt, and then he woke up (awakened).
She felt judged and in turn judgmental, and then she found compassion.
He felt hopeless, and the he saw a glimmer of Light (The Light found him!)
She felt anxious, and then she realized her worth.
He felt full of uncertainty, and then he tapped into Source and was filled with “knowing”.
She felt unimportant, and then she realized her worth.
He felt angry, and then he realized the story he was telling herself. And then he laughed.
You don’t have to know HOW any of this will happen. By being willing and open, things shift and you just automatically find your way into that new state of being. We tell ourselves things that are not true. We hear them in our head and we believe them. Most of the stuff we say to ourselves is just rubbish impressed upon us from events and circumstances long passed.
These “And Then” statements allow our brain to open to new possibilities . . . AND THEN our heart finds the way.
I recently did a message at The Divine Fellowship entitled Bring in the Light. There were a few highlights that I wanted to share with you.
We spend a lot of energy and effort fearing what might happen. We spend our energy replaying old events in our minds hoping to understand then or protect ourselves from being harmed in that same way again. This generates anxiety. The fear and anxiety feed the darkness, and yet, there are things that we can do and do well that causes the darkness to diminish.
When you take time to meditate . . . darkness fades.
When you give a friend or stranger a compliment . . . The Light glows brighter.
When you laugh (genuinely find joy) . . . The Light amplifies.
When you Pray for yourself or another . . . The Light shines.
When you are brave and try something new . . . The Light intensifies.
When you allow someone to be where they are – even if it’s not where you want them to be . . . Light beams.
When you let someone go ahead of you in line . . . The Light blazes
When you notice a sunrise or a sunset . . . the Light radiates.
When you snap a photo for a stranger . . . the darkness scatters.
When you welcome differences while others exclude and ridicule . . . the darkness slips away.
When you tell someone how they’ve impacted your life . . . darkness folds in on itself.
When you are gentle when others are abrupt and impatient . . . darkness yields.
When you refrain from anger when cut off in traffic . . . darkness shatters.
When you forgive someone or take responsibility for your own actions . . . darkness scatters.
When you hold sacred ground for someone who is suffering . . . darkness evaporates.
When you speak kindness when others spew hatred and fear . . . darkness is VANQUISHED!
Darkness cannot prevail. Darkness fears YOU and the Light of Love that abides within you! Be the Light that you already are!
Do you remember the Bedazzled gizmo? You could apply sparkly’s to anything and everything.
Today I’m feeling a bit Bedraggled.
Weird dreams, aches and pains that didn’t really keep me awake, but were in the realm of awareness all night. Even coffee didn’t sound appealing. (I know! Right!?!)
So, as I muddled though the morning and typed out today’s message from the Ancient Ones, I began to see the honey-like light pouring down into me. I took a bit of a break and suddenly found myself cleaning the bathroom. Hadn’t planned on doing that, just found myself doing that task with a new essential oil cleaner I’d just mixed up.
Now, I’m not sure if it was the new cleaner making an old task “fun” (cleaning the bathroom = fun?!?) or if it was the energy influx, but I can guarantee you it wasn’t will power or determination. I hadn’t even really considered taking on that task.
So, if you haven’t read the Ancient Ones message yet, I strongly encourage you to do so! I’m feeling much better – effortlessly!
I still have a ways to go to being my normal, joyful self, but I’m a long ways from where I was an hour ago. Just because I felt bedraggled, doesn’t mean I cannot become bedazzled! And I don’t even have to work on it. No “efforting” involved. No whining involved. No suffering involved.
It’s that simple. Even for the little stuff. It’s not the end of the world nor a huge tragedy. I just was running low on energy. By asking, allowing, and visualizing that warm, glowing golden light to flow down into my soul, I’m regenerating/rejuvenating/restoring my energy fields.
My normal routine would have called for a stern talking to myself about what I’m doing wrong. You can imagine how productive that usually is. . . not.
Where ever you are today . . . How ever you are today . . . Take a moment for yourself. Rather than using that time to beat yourself up, how about an energy break instead? Ask for assistance. God (Divine Source, Higher Power, All That Is . . .Whatever) sends this golden light to you. See this energy flowing into your being. I noticed it flowing into every cell of my body. I don’t know where the soul resides, so I just allowed the energy to flow where it wanted to go. As it flowed in, it swept away exhaustion and the bedraggled energy.
I know it will be wise to rest today. I have a sense that clarity will come to me to assist me in shifting even more. I feel I can rest with peaceful and gentle energy rather than self-loathing and bitter reproach. I bet I rest much better as a result.
How will you use this golden energy?
If you want to share your results, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear from you!
It’s time to replace my keyboard for my computer. After completing two books utilizing the same keyboard I can hardly read the keys. All of the lettering except Enter; Shift; Backspace and the letters X, Z, W, P and Q are worn off. Nothin’ but black. If I don’t rely upon muscle memory, I couldn’t type a thing!
Funny thing is, we have TWO replacement keyboards ready to hook up. One is wireless and one is not. I didn’t realize we had either replacement until I cleaned the office a few weeks ago. They had been buried under workshop handouts and unfinished projects.
With those handouts filed and the projects either finished or removed, it’s time to decide!
Wireless I could move around a bit. Wired I could retain status quo. I don’t think I really care. Therein lies the issue. My apathy restricts my moving forward. Granted, I only need to look at the letters on the keyboard if I’m typing in an unfamiliar password or something, but I’m sure Phil doesn’t type by memory like I do. When we had repairmen in to work on the internet, they were totally lost!
I think I’m waiting for something to fire me up to require a decision. So, in the meantime, I’m deciding not to decide. That’s okay, too.
I’ve got another book simmering on the back burner. I’m not quite fired up about that yet. Bits and pieces get my interest going, yet I’m just not fired up about it.
My “fire-in-the-soul” for now, is focused on the Intuitive Tarot Mastery and Certification Worth-shops I’m teaching. Love that! Love to see people understanding it and getting excited about it, too.
I get to be fired up about somethings and not fired up about other things. Self-judgment would tell me I’m bad for that. I can let that judgment go. I get to allow myself to live wide open about one subject and ho-hum about another. (Times past I would have expected myself to be fired up about everything all the time. Sheesh! Glad I can let that go.)
This time of year some people are really fired up about Christmas decorating. Phil and I don’t decorate our house . . . mostly because I don’t enjoy the un-decorating that happens in January . . . though in truth, I really decorated the house once a few years back and it was beautiful and perfect! Since then, it’s been – been there done that, no thank you. Some people think I’m terrible for not decorating the house. I’m okay with that. It’s just that they are all fired up about the decorations and want me to have that same feeling. I don’t. It’s okay that they do.
Conversely, I’ve got some new ideas for decorating the church that I’m pretty fired up about. Go figure!
So, how does one find the “fire-in-the-soul” about life? It’s pretty easy to see where the fire isn’t, true? I can easily see what I’m NOT fired up about – computer keyboards – decorating the house for the holidays. Trying to install a fire there is pretty fruitless and frustrating. If someone
wants you to get all fired up about something and you are not, let it go. Allow them to be where they are and bless their efforts as best you can by being supportive and caring. (Wouldn’t want to dampen their fire! That’s not fair! Build them up and stoke their fire so they can really shine! That blesses you both!)
Then, take some time to consider what fires you up. Where do you put your energy? Are you allowing duty to drain your energy so there is no fire left? Might want to remember to bring balance into your world.
Usually, anything creative generates “fire-in-the-soul”. Often, being out in nature allows the fire to expand. Anything out of routine is helpful to break the apathy pattern that exists when the fire is missing.
“But, I’m depressed,” you might say. Breaking set patterns becomes vital as the fire is low in this case. Do one thing differently today. One thing. Doing one simple thing differently changes our perspective on lots of other things. One little thing is a spark that can ignite the bonfire of your soul!
It’s unnecessary to be fired up about everything all the time. Yet, having that “fire-in-the-soul” about something brightens the whole world. You feel it and shine. Others sense the shine and can catch the spark. Soon, the world is a brighter place.
One little change can make a huge difference in your own world. One person can make a huge difference in the world. Make a difference by doing one thing differently and see where that takes you! What an adventure! Look out world!
Those who remember old TV shows can hear me shouting - Fire-In-The-Soul!
I spent most of yesterday cleaning the kitchen. We had purchased a new over-the-stove microwave and the big old microwave was removed and given away. That left a pile of clutter and old dust that just had to go. While I was at it, I tackled another clutter spot filled with notes and pens and coupons. That just had to go, too!
Then there was that other corner that had, well, what was back there anyway?
Clutter removed, dirt cleaned, counters polished (they are old, but when polished they look ok), even the walls got a good scrubbing.
Usually, I stress and anguish about a big job like that for at least a day or two. Grumble, moan about it and generally resist taking action. This time, I felt the resistance and released it. (Thank you Sedona Method!! If you haven’t checked that out, you really might want to give it some attention!) I was going to sit and glance at the paper for a minute and found myself just getting to it! I was as surprised as you!
I gave myself several opportunities to quit. “I’ll do this much today and do the rest another day,” sort of thing. No need. I just kept going. For someone who experiences low energy issues, this was such a blessing!
It surprises me how much energy is spent on resisting, dreading, stressing, or dragging my feet on something. What a huge blessing it is to just get to it! It’s hard for me to equate stress and resistance as usable energy – life force energy. They seem so different, yet are they really?
It’s my energy taking form as tension or as action. My choice how to use that energy. On a low energy day, I can take a bit more time and awareness to release resistance/dread so that I have more energy to do the things I prefer to do.
Some things are still not fun, yet they take half the time and not nearly as much energy. What a deal!
My next task is the pantry. God only knows what’s in there. Usable stuff is up front, certainly, but who knows what’s been shoved in those dark corners. I have a couple of things still on my counters that really belong in the pantry – but there is no room. So, on my next day-off, the pantry will get my attention. I am already feeling dread and releasing it. I’m already feeling tired and releasing it. I’m already feeling the exhaustion of choosing what stays and what goes and I’m releasing it.
How to release? Notice what you’re feeling. Feeling dread is a pretty normal and appropriate action for a task like cleaning the pantry. I don’t have to pretend I don’t feel the dread. I don’t have to push the dread away in the back of my mind (not really releasing). I don’t have to shame/blame myself because it’s there. I just let it be there. (What a concept!) Then I allow it to dissipate or fall away as best I can for now. If the dread reappears, I welcome it and let it go again. And again. The process takes very little energy, yet releases a ton of energy for me to use elsewhere.
I have a couple of tasks to do on the computer this morning. These are things I don’t yet know how to do and I’m feeling resistance coming up for those tasks as well. I think I’ll take a few minutes to notice and release that resistance as well.
Releasing resistance could be called surrender. Surrender isn’t about giving up, it’s about giving up the struggle. Once the struggle is released, we slip into the flow. In the flow, energy becomes usable, decisions become easier, actions seem effortless, time shifts (things take less time than we thought they would), our minds open, and our spirit soars!
Some days, don’tcha just wish there was a way to Ctrl+Alt+Delete for life’s experiences?
Not just do-overs, but block it out completely from our experiences . . . wishing somethings just never happened.
When we experience this, we are in the middle of trauma or we are re-living trauma. Trauma looks differently to different folks. Those who have experienced very little trauma can be upset and distraught over minor things, while those who have experienced horrible crisis can be more resilient over the little things. At the same time, those who experienced difficulties can be resilient for a while and then become overwhelmed by the next little thing that comes along.
Living in a cave can prevent a lot of the trauma we experience, yet that’s not a good option for us either.
So, how do we deal with trauma – or what WE perceive as trauma (others may perceive as silly – get over yourself) so that we feel free?
Unfortunately, there is no single way to deal with trauma. And maybe lots of ways in conjunction with one another may provide the relief we are looking for. For me, a combination of EFT (tapping), Emotion Code, Prayer, Breath Work, doing creative things, walking out in nature, petting kittens, doing a kindness, and a healthy dose of grandchildren really seems to help.
There is no quick fix, yet some processes take only a moment of time and offer hours of relief. I think the trick for me is to keep at it. The hardest part is recognizing I’m going down and taking immediate steps to prevent further damage. The biggest tip-off for me is finding fault with myself or with Phil (hard to believe, I know!) Once I recognize I’m criticizing either one of us, I know I’d better do something FAST!! That downward spiral gets out of control so fast it’ll make your head spin!
What are your tip-offs?
What do you do to counteract the spiral?
What will help a full blown spiral out of control negativity blast? In a word, GOD. Whatever you perceive that to be . . . Divine Source, All That Is . . .What-ever. The Presence of God is ever available to us and God’s Love happens immediately upon asking. Just ASK!!! “Please help me, I’m down and out!” Or, “Please help me I’m heading down and don’t want to go there.”
Also, God’s angelic host immediately intervene when asked. Specifically, Angels of Protection often are the first to arrive. These beings are often a brilliant white, yellow, or light orange in color. Darkness cannot stand all their brightness and will dissipate. Angels of Comfort come in next, these are often shades of blue and feel very soothing. Then, Angels of Healing attend.
These are often appear to be surrounded by hues of greens. If you see a flash of light out of the corner of your eye, you may have an angel in attendance. You may not perceive a color at first, but you might become aware of a color once you tune in regularly.
If you know someone who is struggling with overcoming trauma, you may send angels to assist them. You might want to send Angels of Illumination first – these are Luminary Angels and are a softer white than Angels of Protection. These Angels help a person see their options and opportunities to grow and shift. Without that awareness, not much else can happen. “Luminary Angels, please attend to my friend ___________.”
You may wish to send Angels of Protection along with the Luminary Angels. Or, you can let Divine Source determine which angels are best by saying, “Please send angels to ___________.”
When we are in the midst of that trauma spiral, it is nearly impossible to get clear enough to remember to ask. It’s wise to request Angels to attend when in a positive state, knowing that a downward turn could happen at any time. Traumatized people have lots of triggers that can get activated quickly. Once the cycle has broken at least once, it is tons easier to break free a second time or a third.
For me, it’s probably always going to be something for me to deal with. Thank Goodness I have tools that really help and that help really quickly. Keep searching until you find what works for you. A joyful life is our rightful state of being. Seek it. Find it. Own it!
I saw a post on Facebook the other day. . . Someone had been having a really hard time of it for awhile and they posted that they’d had a perfect day, except . . . (and went on to list what they didn’t like about the day.) You can see right away that something feels off about that, right?
We humans are programmed to look for what’s wrong for our survival. Those of us who’ve had trauma are more likely to discover the wrong more quickly than others might. That can be a good thing when sorting fruit or building a shed. To be happy, it’s imperative to invoke a different sort of search engine in our brain.
Here’s the deal: The Universe (God, Higher Power, All That Is, Whatever) happily serves us up what we think about. What we hold in our attention becomes gifted to us. What we focus on sends an energetic message to Universe, “More of this, please.” To which the Universe responds, “Certainly! And here! Have it in abundance!”
Let’s break the pattern of negative or sorrowful things happening to us. Take 15 minutes of your day . . . (Yes, just 15 minutes!) and think of wonderful things you’ve experienced in your life and think of wonderful things you hope to experience. It helps to write a list of happy happenstances. Keep it simple. Like; kicking through the fall leaves with the dogs. Really recall those details. Molly as a puppy diving into a pile of leaves and spinning until all the leaves were scattered. What joy that memory evokes! I remember the large oak leaves and the beautiful colors on each one. I recall Phil’s laugh. The crisp air, the bright sun, that old coat—ragged but warm, the throwing of leaves into the air and the dogs catching them. Just reading about my memory probably brought a wave of bright energy to you! Imagine how much power your own memories possess!
Once you’ve remembered good things for a bit, then shift into positive expectations—your hopes, what you hope to experience. Laughter, ease, comfort, excitement of pursuing a dream or a goal. Maybe you aren’t experiencing them in this moment, but you know you’ve experienced good things before. You can and will experience more goodness. Don’t have happy memories? Ask others to share theirs! When you can “get into it” it feels just as real and is just as powerful! See it and feel it. Then envision what you hope to experience.
See it into being. See yourself happy. See yourself healthy. See yourself financially comfortable. See yourself helping others. See it. Believe it. Be it!
15 minutes of remembering/envisioning offers some amazing side benefits!