One cannot move forward if they are continually looking back. Your past has much to teach you should you choose to notice and understand.
Reliving the past does not teach. Rather, reliving the past anchors one's energy / attention / strength / life force in the past. Learning from the past allows one's energy to flow into the future with new understanding.
So, how does one view the past to obtain the valuable information without reliving the past? Allow your noticing the past to move into the space of Sacred Observer. This requires noticing without judgment. This requires seeing without experiencing. If the pain is too much, step back. Step out of the experience. Create for yourself a safe viewing space.
A safe viewing space is a space of sacredness. A space of knowing your value, your worth, your talents and abilities, your blessings and your gifts. When in this space of value, other's actions, opinions and judgments hold no ground in your awareness. The exist, but without damage to you. From this safe viewing space, even old painful trauma's can be viewed without pain or renewing the trauma.
If you are unable to find your space of sacredness where you feel your own sacred value, you may not yet be ready to observe old wounds.
Give that old experience a sacred gift and leave it there in that time and space. That sacred gift could be the idea of a flower to signify you care. That sacred gift could be the symbol of a crystal to signify your willingness to see clearly.
Whatever sacred gift you select, place it in your awareness next to that memory. Maybe that looks like leaving a flower on a table that was present in this experience. Maybe that feels like just a mental marker on that memory.
By leaving this marker/sacred gift, you allow yourself to bring more of yourself present time. You can utilize this energy for anything that you choose to do now - in this moment. You free up a lot of stuck energy with this process.
Once you are ready to observe that old trauma with the Sacred Observer that does not re-experience the pain, you may see something in this that you may have missed before. You may notice that the trauma really had nothing to do with your worth. Rather, it was an expression of someone else's previous traumas. This allows you to reclaim your sense of sacred value.
Whether you utilize the Sacred Observer or you utilize the sacred gift, allow yourself to free up your energy for the here and now.
You have much to do here and now. Not just accomplishing duties, but instilling love in your world. You shine brightly as you bestow this love through your actions and your words. Your kindness changes the world.
We honor you in this.